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How Long is Too Long to be Just Dating?

Filed in Relationships by on February 11, 2014 0 Comments
How Long is Too Long to be Just Dating?

Many women have asked me how long is too long to be dating or when they should expect to see their relationship take a step to the next level.  Decisions like this have to be a topic of conversation in the relationship.  As a man, if I’m OK with where we stand, or I don’t […]

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Single Parents: 4 Things Your Kids Are Learning from Your Relationships

Filed in Relationships by on January 30, 2014 0 Comments
Single Parents: 4 Things Your Kids Are Learning from Your Relationships

As a single father, I’m always careful about who I date, who I bring around my children and deciding the right time to bring that special someone around my children.  Those are important concerns to think about when raising a child.  Your children deserve to see you happy and in a productive relationship.  Not only […]

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Write It, Post It, Speak It, Live It!

Filed in Relationships by on January 29, 2014 0 Comments
Write It, Post It, Speak It, Live It!

A couple of years ago, I re-started an exercise, which was posting my objectives on an annual basis.  One of my aspirations was to be married by the end of that year.  I had a huge “post-it note” type of sticker attached to the wall in my bedroom.  Every morning, I awoke looking at that […]

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Impose Your Will To Realize Your Dreams!

Filed in Relationships by on January 8, 2014 0 Comments
Impose Your Will To Realize Your Dreams!

Growing up in the Southeast, you could have mistaken me for a kid from Harlem that grew up next to Rucker Park if you only knew me by how much basketball I played.  I was severely addicted to the game.  I was a point guard and although I was just an average player, there was […]

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Taking Applications

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Taking Applications

A friend of mine was nice enough to share with me a comment she ran across as she was posting to her blog.  The comment read “I am a 65 year-old black man who wishes I was married, but I have never been married and it appears to me that I will never be married […]

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Financial Friday: Combining Lives and Money

Filed in Financial Friday, Relationships by on December 14, 2013 0 Comments
Financial Friday:  Combining Lives and Money

Marriage is more than just a union of two people; it’s a union of two lives and everything in those lives.  It’s about more than just the romantic side.  It’s about combining lifestyles, families and philosophies about everything from parenting to health and wellness. One very important “meeting of the minds” has to be on […]

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The Importance of Forgiveness

Filed in Relationships by on November 23, 2013 8 Comments
The Importance of Forgiveness

As a relationship coach and someone who writes for the premier matchmaker in the country, I have the tools and resources to deal with relationship issues not only for others but in my own situations as well.  Before I decided to take this journey to study and learn about the science of relationships, how they […]

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Rejection: A Positive Change in Direction

Filed in Relationships by on November 19, 2013 0 Comments
Rejection: A Positive Change in Direction

Recently, I was discussing a situation with a client where he is in turmoil with his wife and family.  He got married a few years ago and he already had a daughter from a previous relationship which he brought to the marriage.  At some point, communication and trust broke down within the relationship.  Not long […]

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Financial Friday: How to Survive Black Friday (and the other holidays this time of year)

Filed in Financial Friday, Relationships by on November 15, 2013 0 Comments
Financial Friday:  How to Survive Black Friday (and the other holidays this time of year)

Many of us in America feel that Black Friday is the official start of the holiday shopping season.  I beg to differ.  I believe Black Friday is the second official holiday in the holiday season.  I have friends and family who prepare for Black Friday well in advance of preparing for Thanksgiving or Christmas.  They […]

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Financial Friday: How Giving Actually Increases Our Own Lives

Filed in Financial Friday, Relationships by on November 8, 2013 0 Comments
Financial Friday:  How Giving Actually Increases Our Own Lives

The Power of Giving Of all of the characteristics of our financial lives, I believe giving to others is the most underrated, most overlooked and most gratifying component of our financial lives. When we give to other people it does something to us physically, emotionally and often spiritually. When people give from the heart, they […]

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Jay’s Blog

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Jay’s Blog

Successful relationships happen because people make them happen. Jay’s blog is full of relationship strategies for building and maintaining a successful relationship. You’ll find insight into handling finances, navigating a break-up, blending a family, cultivating healthy habits and much more. SUBSCRIBE to Jay’s blog so you don’t miss a thing!

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Financial Friday: Being on the Same Page

Filed in Financial Friday, Relationships by on October 18, 2013 0 Comments
Financial Friday:  Being on the Same Page

Financial Friday: Are You And Your Mate On The Same Page Financially? I’m going to begin to drill down into specific topics that are intricate parts of relationships. Those topics include health and well-being, finances, children and spirituality. We’re going to bring in guest bloggers and share more wisdom and insight into these subjects. Expect […]

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Relationship Builders: When to Let Go

Filed in Relationships by on October 11, 2013 0 Comments
Relationship Builders:  When to Let Go

When Is It Time To Let Go? As a Relationship Coach, this is one of the topics which are not a lot of fun, but sometimes necessary. The harsh reality is that letting go of a relationship that no longer works is just as important as fighting for a relationship that is worth fighting for. […]

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Looking Within

Filed in Relationships by on September 13, 2013 0 Comments
Looking Within

Every relationship has a foundation The foundation of the relationship starts with two individuals who choose to be together. I have heard women say something to the effect of, “If I just had a man, everything would be okay” or “I would feel complete.” I have to say, it’s difficult to believe that women in […]

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Help! My Relationship has Issues!

Filed in Relationships by on September 4, 2013 0 Comments
Help! My Relationship has Issues!

For this month, we are going to a bit of a different format. We are going to start a series of blogs for the month. The theme this month is Relationship Building. The first topic I want to address is relationship issues. The term, ‘issues,’ in the context of relationships is a colloquialism for challenges […]

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Relationship Success: Protect and Serve

Filed in Relationships by on August 14, 2013 0 Comments
Relationship Success: Protect and Serve

To have relationship success, you must protect and serve There are many times I have seen relationships where the woman felt like she didn’t feel secure. I think there is an instinct in many women to want to feel secure, not only in the context of the relationship, but to feel secure in their livelihood […]

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Creating True Intimacy

Filed in Relationships by on August 8, 2013 0 Comments
Creating True Intimacy

Imagine what it would be like … What if we were open with our spouses all of the time? We’re individuals, so there are going to be private moments, but what if you truly shared yourself with someone? You’re thoughts, your desires, your past, your imperfections, maybe your spirituality? I think it’s probably not necessary […]

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Powerful Words

Filed in Relationships by on July 24, 2013 0 Comments
Powerful Words

One of the things I have learned as a writer is the power of words Words highlight emotion. Words paint a picture. Words take on the character of the writer or speaker. If you have read a novel by Terry McMillan or a book about self-improvement by Tony Robbins or T.D. Jakes, you could often […]

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Trayvon Martin: Progress Toward a Better Tomorrow

Filed in Relationships by on July 16, 2013 0 Comments
Trayvon Martin: Progress Toward a Better Tomorrow

Trayvon … What Do We Do Now? I had planned on writing about something totally different today. But over the weekend, a lot transpired in the Martin/Zimmerman case. Normally, I wouldn’t consider writing about news stories. I’m a relationship specialist. But I’m stirred to write about this because it’s exactly the type of thing we […]

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Attraction: The First Law of a Relationship

Filed in Relationships by on July 10, 2013 3 Comments
Attraction: The First Law of a Relationship

at·trac·tion /əˈtrakSHən/ noun 1. A person or thing that draws, allures or entices. 2. A characteristic or quality that provides pleasure. These are definitions of attraction. Some people call attraction, “swagger.” You may hear someone say, “He has a magnetic personality.” That’s another way of describing attraction. Lots of things play a part in today’s […]

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